Posts Tagged ‘Margaret’

Oh, Margaret

Monday, June 21st, 2010

Margaret and I met and married in 1990.  It was late that year or early in 1991 when I wrote this poem.  And sometime in the years that followed, I lost the original copy.  So on January 31, 2010, I rewrote the poem.  It is certainly possible that I have made some minor changes, but the concept and thoughts all remain.

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Oh, Margaret, I’m glad you’re in my life

and glad you consented to be my wife.

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I’m very glad that I love you

and glad you feel the same way, too.

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I’m glad you bring me so much joy

and glad that you are not a boy.

Ten Days Ago

Thursday, June 17th, 2010

It was ten days ago. Ten long, thoughtful days ago. I had been wanting the adventure – no, adventure is not the right word. The experience – yes, I had been wanting the experience for a long time. Still, how could I know just what awaited me?

My wife, though not one of us, went with me. She bravely sat at my side throughout the whole thing. We arrived early. We stayed for the full event. She knew some of the people, I did not.

Second by second the time ticked by. Each participant spoke the words they had come to say. Some scientific, some of personal history, some of nature, some of death, and more. The range of topics was limited only by the number of participants present. No, not even that number was the limit as some covered more than a single subject.

The subject of death: that was mine. We were to speak words recently assembled, but my words were from nearly four decades ago. I had brought with me words written a long time ago because I did not know what the rules were. But I did not hide it. In fact, the very words themselves revealed the time lapse. I am not ashamed. The words were good. The story they told was not.

Even though she is not one of us, Margaret was also required to speak some words. She asked me to recommend some of my words for her to speak. I did. She spoke them. She did well.

And then we were required to prove our ability by putting together words that related to a subject that was announced just before we started the creation of the new sentences and paragraphs. Although it may not be the intent of our host, this procedure would prove that the words we were soon to speak were truly structured by none other than ourselves. After all, who could say that the words I spoke on death were arranged by me? I could, but who else?

And so we did. It was scary. It is my habit to arrange words and rearrange them and often do that repeatedly before I consider them worthy of presenting to others. Even then I am not always so sure. But I did as required. I put together words about – toothpaste. And, even though she is not one of us, my wife did so also. And she did well.

The task was enabled by a chemical supplement: a product originating in the equatorial territory of the Americas. The product is made from a bean which comes from a pod which grows on a tree. The bean is fermented and roasted and further processed until it becomes the thick pellet we were given. It’s powers are nothing less than magical. All at the event were able to produce sentences that met the requirements of our host. For me, I am sure it was the cacao bean that made the difference.

So was the experience what I expected? No, not quite. I had anticipated true critiques of the word packages provided by each of us. That was not provided. In a way it was a relief. I was prepared for negative feedback on my words, but I’m not so sure I could reciprocate. And that would not be fair.

The group comes together on a regular schedule. The next time is four days from now. Will I be there? No, I will not. I’ll not stay away because of my concern stated in the previous paragraph. As it happens, I’ll be traveling to another state on the day of the meeting.

Will I assemble with these people in the future? Yes. After all, while I am required to sit through whatever words they wish to speak, regardless of my interest, or lack of interest, in the subject, this provides a reciprocal advantage. They must listen to whatever I choose to speak of, regardless of their interest, or lack of interest. In other words, I have what all writers want: a captive audience.

The New Nursing Home

Monday, April 26th, 2010

Just a little note about an amusing incident. Amusing if you are me. For Margaret, not so much.

Margaret is a Registered Nurse. Actually, all nurses are registered nurses because the state requires you to have a license before they let you earn an income doing nursing work. Getting a license is registering.

But I digress. I like to do that, (digress, that is) because it helps me make a really short incident a bit longer. And the more words I use telling you that I’m not yet telling you what I started out to tell you, the longer it will take me to tell you whatever it was that I was going to tell you. What was I going to tell you, anyhow?

Oh, yeah! I remember. Margaret is a Registered Nurse as in RN vs a Licensed Practical Nurse as in LPN. In other words she went to school longer than LPNs do.

Margaret works in a nursing home. She has worked in nursing homes for most of the time we have spent as a married couple. And that is nearly two decades. Two very good decades, I would like to point out. But I digress. I like to . . . Oh, never mind.

It is very common for her to receive an occasional mail solicitation from a medical facility (nursing home or hospital, etc.), suggesting she contact them about an employment opportunity. This is especially true when a new facility opens in the local area. Or in the not so local area. Sometimes even out of state.

Recently, we have had two new hospitals open in Lafayette. Even more recently a new nursing home opened in town. Today the mail carrier delivered a large post card from this new nursing home. It was addressed to my darling wife, Margaret. Well, let me clarify that – it was not addressed to: Ms. My Darling Wife Margaret. It was addressed to: Ms. Margaret Deedon.

So it was addressed to Margaret, not to me. Why would I think it might have been addressed to me? Margaret is ten years younger than I am. I won’t tell her age but I am . . . uh, forget that. Anyway, she is ten years younger than I and we are both in pretty good health. So there is no reason that those sending out the postcards might think she is not a possible prospective employee. None at all.

So as I looked at this postcard sent to my (ten years younger than I am) wife, I noticed that they were not seeking employees. They were suggesting that she “Reserve your private suite now. . .” In other words, they want her as a resident!!

I’ll come and visit you once in a while, Margaret.

ROFL

Who’s the Boss?

Monday, February 22nd, 2010

I am, of course. There has never been any doubt about it. I am the boss in my house. That’s not to say that Margaret does everything I ask. Or, for that matter, does anything I ask. None the less, I am the boss.

For instance, when Margaret asks me to take out the trash, I’ll do it – when I feel like it. Once she asks (or tells) me to do it, it seems that I start to imagine I’m smelling the trash and that’s no good. So I usually take it out within a few minutes. That’s the only reason I take it out so soon.

When we travel someplace by car, I drive. I drive because I insist on driving. Margaret never argues with me. This has nothing to do with the fact that she hates driving.

When she asks me to cook lunch, I only do it so I don’t have to eat her cooking. I ask her what she wants but than I cook what I want. If she says pizza we’re in luck because I love pizza. Or she might say mushroom soup, which I don’t like. So I tell her she might as well give me another choice as I don’t intend to cook mushroom soup. So she’ll offer the second choice of, say, me sleeping on the couch. I cook mushroom soup as it is now my choice.

So it is clearly settled, as it was nearly 20 years ago when we married – I am the boss of my house.

Well, I’ll ask Margaret if I can post this now.

PS. Margaret has a good sense of humor and if EITHER of us felt the above represented the truth, NEITHER of us would want it published. Honest!

A Little Bit of a Love Story

Sunday, February 14th, 2010

Just a little story about when Margaret and I were first dating. For me it was pretty much love at first sight. I seriously doubted Margaret felt the same way, at least not as soon as I did. She had previously told me she did not expect she would ever get married again. It was on our second date that I decided to let her know that I thought we had a future together.

With the hope of not scaring her off, I simply told her that I knew that at that time it was too soon for her; but someday I was going to ask her to marry me, and when I did, she would accept.

When I was about the age shown in my avatar (and before Margaret was born), MGM released a musical called Thrill of a Romance. I have a CD with Michael Feinstein singing one of the songs from that movie. I had put that on the CD player and had it set up so that while I was sweet talking Margaret with my prediction, the above mentioned song was playing in the background. The song title: “Please Don’t Say No, Say Maybe.”

The irony is that Margaret did not even realize what was playing on the CD. She was paying no attention to the lyrics so she didn’t realize that my bold prediction was not backed by as much confidence as I would have liked. Then again, perhaps she was simply too enthralled with what I was saying to pay attention to the background music. Of course, I’d like to think the latter.

This September 30, we will celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary. That is 20 years of love growing stronger each day.

From Technophobe to Facebook Fanatic

Thursday, January 28th, 2010
It’s my wife, Margaret, I’m talking about. A year ago I would have to beg, plead and cajole her if I wanted her to read an article I’d found on the Internet. She really wanted nothing to do with computers. She did understand that they were (and are) a part of society and of my life. But she wanted nothing to do with the little electronic monsters. If I asked her to read something and she could not do so at the moment she would agree to read it later. I would tell her how to get to it but that was not good enough. She needed me to open up the article and leave the computer on until she could read it. Or she needed me to print it out for her – that was her preference.

Margaret as a newly "crowned" nurse

Margaret is a Registered Nurse and works at a nursing home. Like all of us, she is not as young as she once was. She would like to get a job where she doesn’t need to be on her feet for the entire shift. Most (if not all) of the desk jobs require extensive computer usage. Margaret remains a floor nurse. At least that helps her keep her girlish figure. (Margaret is looking over my shoulder and made me put that last sentence in.) I think part of the problem was that she has heard about computer viruses and is afraid that SHE might catch one.
It was about this time last year when she became aware that a high school reunion she wanted to attend was being organized using a web site. Reluctantly she signed up to the site to keep up with the plans. She also started emailing a few of her old high school classmates. I was heavily involved in aiding her in all of this. So, you ladies who were communicating with her via email: you have no secrets with her that I don’t know about! Slowly but surely the computer bug (not the virus) got under her skin.
For Christmas she decided she wanted me to provide her with the notebook that I have, but seldom use, for her own use. I set it up on the dining room table (no place else available in the house) for her. It is hooked up to the power cord and uses an external keyboard and mouse for her convenience.

Then I had to help her get up on Facebook. And that is when our sweet domestic life as we had known it came to a screeching halt. Now I am lucky to have a conversation with her at home. The first thing she does upon waking is turn on the computer. Turning it off is the last thing before going to work or to sleep.

Friends. As of this writing, Margaret has 142 friends on Facebook. I don’t even KNOW 142 people! She has already passed each of her kids and they were both on Facebook before her. I think she is trying to get more friends than both of them put together!

She still has no interest in using a computer at work. She is still afraid of it if I’m not available to help her with glitches. For instance: when the computer hangs up and won’t boot or won’t shut down, I still have to help her resolve the problem.

It’s nice to know she still needs me.